THE KEY TO A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE

Since i started writing on this blog i haven't written anyting on relationships yet.So today i've decided to write on a very pressing topic which is something most of us are bothered with.You will thank me for eventually for this write-up.This article is fantastic and worth reading

'How do I know if you are married/in a relationship the right person?'

Here's the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse / partner . You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit) .

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience.

You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU .

People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept off my feet.' Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU .

Falling in love is easy . It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage/relationship, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship . Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your partner's/spouse's idiosyncrasies , instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage/relationship, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse/partner might start asking, 'Did I get involved with the right person?'

And as you and your spouse/partner reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you my begin to desire that experience with someone else.

This is when marriages /relationships breakdown, People blame their spouse/partner for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage/relationship for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage/relationship. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else.

You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE  OR HAVING A HEALTY RELATIONSHIP IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression 'the labor of love.' Because it takes time, effort, and energy . And most importantly, it takes WISDOM.You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage/relationship work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships.

Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage or relationship stronger.

It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. .. you can 'make'love .

Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'.. . Not just a feeling.Most relationship end up in marriage because both parties agreed they could and where ready to make it happen.

Remember this always :

'God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.'

This is a very good article. Those who are still single may learn something from here...

Those who are already married may take it as a guideline to improve your marriage & relationship .

MAY GOD GIVE US THE WISDOM TO TAKE THE RIGHT STEPS.

I hope this piece has made more relationships amd marriages work.